How To Make Tough Decisions Easier | Business Personal Development

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In this business personal development post I ‘m going to share with you what I believe is very important to remember when it comes to making tough decisions in our lives, and which when we do, makes the process a whole lot easier.

Tough decisions are a natural part of our learning process and sometimes the responsibility that comes with making these can be quite intense.

I decided to stop actively associating with a certain two people in my life this week. These were not decisions I made lightly nor did I want to make the decisions I did.

I believe we must surround ourselves with people as much as possible who empower and support us even if they don’t always agree with or understand why we are on the journey we are.

Although I like both these people, unfortunately neither of them are able to do this and so my responsibility towards myself led me to make the decisions I did.

Tough? You bet.

On reflection though I realized something significant which I want to share with you in the video below:

I’d love to hear what your thoughts are about this topic and whether you have had to face similar tough decisions in your life. How did you go about it?

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Written by Marcus Baker

Marcus Baker started learning how to access his inner power from a young age. He is passionate about empowering others to do the same. He writes about personal development and related topics. He'd love you to connect with him via the comments section here and by clicking on any of the following links: Facebook | Twitter | Blog

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38 Responses to How To Make Tough Decisions Easier | Business Personal Development

Wayne Vassell

Hey Marcus,

I know how you may feel, tough decisions like this are not easy. Unfortunately we have to do it from time t time and it builds our character.

Thanks for the vid.

Wayne Vassell, signing out…
.-= Wayne Vassell´s last blog ..Get Backlinks Fast or Take Time Like Finely Aged Wine? =-.

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Marcus Baker Reply:
May 29th, 2010 at 9:18 am
Hi Wayne,

Hey I’m over it already!! It was harder leading up to it than actually doing it in the end. A bit like going to the dentist… well for me anyway. LOL

~Marcus

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Carstarphen

Hey Marcus,

I view people as assets and liability also. I only want mutually beneficial relationships in my life. I cut off human leeches with the quickness…lol:)

J

The Cartoon Coach
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.-= Carstarphen´s last blog ..Free Network Marketing Training- 3 Types of Prospects =-.

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Marcus Baker Reply:
May 29th, 2010 at 9:17 am
Hey there Jeremiah!!

You’re a tough man!! LOL Couldn’t agree more and I am like that myself these days but sometimes when the associations go back a bit it takes a bit longer to disentangle oneself. Does not mean it’s a good thing but just happens to be the case.

~Marcus

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James Hampton

You know Marcus, I agree. It comes a time in our lives when we have to decide if a given relationship is helpful to us or negative. It is not ever easy. You did what you knew you had to do, to move your life forward in a positive manner.

There are many decisions to be made in life. Learn from the past, live in the present and plan for the future.

Talk later,

-James
.-= James Hampton´s last blog ..Network Marketing Phone Fear – Get Rid Of It! =-.

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Marcus Baker Reply:
May 29th, 2010 at 9:15 am
James my friend, thank you for your awesome comment. Sometimes we just have to do what we gotta do I guess. It’s all towards being better for all concerned.

~Marcus

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Josh Garcia

Hey Marcus,

Great message! Making decisions like this is not easy especially when it’s a love one or someone you grew up with. However, in the long run you’ll win!

Have a great weekend!
Josh
.-= Josh Garcia´s last blog ..4 Ways To Create That Successful Blogging Community Experience =-.

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Marcus Baker Reply:
May 29th, 2010 at 9:07 am
Thanks Josh. I guess not everything we have to do is pleasant but sometimes necessary. Appreciate you stopping by.

~Marcus

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steve shoemaker

Marcus that would be a tough decision made all the more tougher due to the fact you actually like the people. But alas the quality of our lives is based the decisions we make. It’s a serious matter and one we must deal with.

P.S. Is this why you haven’t returned my calls? ha ha

Steve Shoemaker
.-= steve shoemaker´s last blog ..Article Marketing Basics For Business Building =-.

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Marcus Baker Reply:
May 29th, 2010 at 9:06 am
Steve… you make me laugh!! It’s all part of cleaning up the residue from the past eh?? Hey you haven’t really been leaving me messages have you?? I ask because I have been having some Internet connectivity issues so not been on Skype much.

~Marcus

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Ryan

Hi Marcus,

Yes, I’ve had to make a similar decision with a number of people in my life, and yes, was it ever uncomfortable. You can’t move forward when being held back. Deciding to move forward is inevitably going to leave people behind and these people aren’t going to be happy about it.

As you stated the key is to trust your judgement. The decision might be difficult and the experience might be unpleasant but if you can see the end result of the decision know that what you’re doing is the right thing to do. Right does not mean easy, fun, or comfort in the Now but these feelings, like everything, will pass.

Thanks for sharing your wonderful insight on an important topic

Ryan
.-= Ryan´s last blog ..Have You Mastered The Art Of Commenting? =-.

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Marcus Baker Reply:
May 29th, 2010 at 9:30 am
Thanks Ryan. I was sure you would have been through a similar experience getting to know you as I am.

I have weeded out most of the stranglers in my life but these were two tough cases. I have known them for a long time and we have shared many good experiences together but so far and no further.

They have had a long time (2 yrs) to accept and support me as I have changed and they have chosen not to so that’s fine with me.

What a relief!!

~Marcus

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Erin Smith

Thanks Marcus for that. I had NO IDEA you were an Aussie! I visited Australia a couple of summers ago and LOVED it!

I totally agree with what you said in surrounding yourself with people who empower you. Not just in the business world but in everyday life!

Erin
.-= Erin Smith´s last blog ..Explode Your MLM!!! . . . or not =-.

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Marcus Baker Reply:
May 29th, 2010 at 9:03 am
Hi Erin,

Yeah it’s funny how small the world becomes when one markets online! Hey please you enjoyed Australia. It’s a great place. Thanks for stopping by and leaving your comment. Much appreciated.

~Marcus

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Tosin

Hey Marcus,
Once I was able to define my goals, things like this didnt really become hard for me to do.
I once heard heard a statement though I can`t place who and where now. It says that you will be the same person five years from now except for two things, the books you read and the people you interact with. So it`s not really about whether I will change, it`s about what I will change into. I took the statement to heart and I`ve sought for people who will help me reach my goals faster and become the kind of person that I desire to become..
What you did is called guts. Bravo!
~~~
Tosin

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Marcus Baker Reply:
May 29th, 2010 at 9:01 am
Hi Tosin,

Thank you for your insightful comment. I have to agree with you and I have done the same with all my new associations. These were two from the past that were just hanging around and in the end I had to break ties. It was harder I guess because I didn’t want to offend them at first but I realized is that I was not being true to them or myself. Ah…. all this ongoing learning eh???

~Marcus

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Jerome Ratliff

Hey Marcus,

Thanks for sharing this because we all come across tough decisions in our life where we must decide which direction to take.

Sometimes it’s the wrong one, and that’s ok because all of it is a learning experience. That is hard too, but that’s just the way it is.

Great insight to this Marcus.

Have a great weekend,
Jerome Ratliff
.-= Jerome Ratliff´s last blog ..Simple Blogging Tip That Will Increase Your Prospect to Lead Conversion Rate =-.

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Marcus Baker Reply:
May 29th, 2010 at 8:57 am
Hi Jerome,

Thanks for taking the time to come by again my friend. I think if we just accept that everything will work out for the best then it’s easier to make those hard decisions

~Marcus

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Sherman Smith

Deep post Marcus,

This is probably one of the hardest decisions people have to make. Especially if your relationship with someone goes a long way back. But if it’s going to keep you from being a better person in the future then it’s best to disassociate yourself. Maybe, just maybe, the “positiveness” of what will become of you will attract those same people into your life so that they will become better.

Sherman
.-= Sherman Smith´s last blog ..FREE WAYS TO MARKET YOUR BUSINESS =-.

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Marcus Baker Reply:
May 30th, 2010 at 7:29 am
Hi there Sherman,

Welcome and thanks for stopping by. I like your thinking on this and I agree completely. One has to make peace with the fact that the decision one makes is for the best and then what will happen will happen and we will learn whatever happens.

~Marcus

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Ilka Flood

Hi Marcus,

Oh do I ever know the way you feel. I had to make some tough decisions in my life. And at the time I made them I did have my doubts whether I made the right decision or not.

If somebody influences your life in a negative way, then it’s best to ‘let go.’ Sometimes you need to listen to your head instead of your heart.

I’m sure over time you will realize that you absolutely made the right decision.

Wishing you only the best,

Ilka
.-= Ilka Flood´s last blog ..Blogging For Business? | Always Put Out Quality Content =-.

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Marcus Baker Reply:
May 31st, 2010 at 8:14 pm
Thank you Ilka. I already know I made the best decision for everybody concerned, it just took a while to get there. In the end I realized it was never going to be comfortable do I just did it. Great to have you visit again.

~Marcus

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Hector Cuevas

Marcus,

I totally agree with Wayne, making tough decisions builds character. & You’re right, life is not always smooth sailing, flowers and rose pedals :0) – tough times calls for strong character..

thanks for sharing this nugget of wisdom
talk soon
Hector
.-= Hector Cuevas´s last blog ..Quick SEO Tips To Getting Higher Search Engine Rankings =-.

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Marcus Baker Reply:
May 31st, 2010 at 8:08 pm
Always nice to have your input Hector!

~Marcus

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Susanna Hess

Hi Marcus,

Thanks for sharing this personal nugget. It is rough when we don’t know what positive outcome there will be, or even how long it will be until we see it.

I’ve been there and it’s not fun at the time. But you’re right, trust your own judgment and make the best choice you can. Sooner or later we’ll see it all work out.

Thanks for the great outlook on this.
Susanna

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WeAreAvant

Disassociating yourself from close, but negative, influences is on of the hardest things to do in life, even harder than giving up cigarettes or a favorite sport. Those we trust give us a sense of intimacy and belonging that simply can’t be replicated by anything less than human.

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Marcus Baker Reply:
August 27th, 2010 at 5:45 pm
Hello,

Thanks for your comment. I agree it’s difficult to disassociate in this way. The only way is to build up new more positive associations at the same time which if one values more one will be able to rely on when you drop the old associations.

~Marcus

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Daniel

Each person has its own method to make though decisions. You are showing a good way to do it there. Most of the times when all paths seem fuzzy is good to just go for it without hesitation. There is always the risk of making the wrong decision.

What works well for me is thinking in my family and how much they need me. That gives the courage to make decisions faster without fear.

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Marcus Baker Reply:
December 23rd, 2010 at 3:36 pm
Hi Daniel,

I guess when one just makes a decision like you say and then buys into it regardless, one can’t really lose. It will always be a learning experience.

Thanks for the comment.

~Marcus

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Inventory Control

Thanks for bringing our attention to an important topic for the entrepreneur.

As you mentioned trusting your judgement is the critical factor in become a better decision maker. Tough decisions hit us frequently. Non-stop if we are moving forward quickly, facing loads of resistance. Continue to trust in yourself and it will be less difficult to make a choice and move forward.

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Marcus Baker Reply:
April 28th, 2011 at 9:51 am
That’s an awesome summary of my post. It’s almost as if our trusting that the choice we make will be best one that makes it manifest in that way.

Thanks for your comment.

~Marcus

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Inventory Tracking

Thanks for bringing our attention to an important topic for the entrepreneur.

As you mentioned trusting your judgement is the critical factor in become a better decision maker. Tough decisions hit us frequently. Non-stop if we are moving forward quickly, facing loads of resistance. Continue to trust in yourself and it will be less difficult to make a choice and move forward.

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Marcus Baker Reply:
April 30th, 2011 at 1:29 am
Hi,

Appreciate your feedback.

Trusting our intuition is the best way of making a decision that feels right for us.

~Marcus

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Dentistry in Australia

Enjoyed the video The key is to make the tough decision and then focus on your new path

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Marcus Baker Reply:
June 22nd, 2011 at 7:20 am
Hi

Thanks for adding to the discussion. You are right, it’s imperative to look foward and leave the past behind one.

~Marcus

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Tara

Decision making is prevalent in business and in life in general, so I feel like anyone could really benefit from reading this blog about how to make the tough decisions a little easier. The ideas you lay out in this article and video are great – any other tips??

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Marcus Baker Reply:
July 24th, 2011 at 9:24 am
Hi Tara,

Welcome and appreciate your leaving a comment here.

I am full of tips LOL… just have a look at my Post Index page and take your pick.

~Marcus

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