MLM Tips – Learn How To Make People Feel Good About Themselves

What does making people feel taller, thinner or younger have to do with MLM? A great deal actually and no I am not about to promote some new wonder berry juice extracted from the “Hoo-Hoo” bush that grows on an ancient burial ground in a far off land! Stay with me though and I’ll not only connect the dots but I’ll also give you some great tips on how you can apply this information to start growing your business right away. Curious?? Read on…

Your long term success in Network marketing / MLM is dependent on how effective you can become at relationship building. You want people to follow and work with you and they will do this when they like you, can learn from you and trust you. So how do you get people to this point?

Put simply all you need to do is purposefully work on contacting people with a view to seeing if a friendship can develop. This means you must initiate the relationship, be who you are and genuinely offer people massive value without condition.

Over time if the friendship is meant to be, it will unfold naturally. This will happen because you resonate sufficiently with the other person and they’ll stick with you like feathers to tar!   Of course this is not going to be the case for everyone you befriend. We connect with some people and not with others and this is just a fact of life.

Now another fact of life is that some people are just better at making friends than others. Go to any party and you’ll be able to pick out those who do this with ease from those who cling to the walls in terror, desperately trying to will someone else to come up to them first.

Some give this a label – “I’m just shy.” So fine, you’re shy and if you accept this label then you had better also accept that you’re more than likely to be the one who misses out on many things in life including a successful MLM business, so get rid of the label and learn how not to be shy. I’m going to share a simple friend making strategy with you which if you will apply and practise will have you making more friends than you know what to do with. This can work whether you are doing so online or offline, the principle remains the same so just adapt it to suit your needs.

Firstly you must accept that YOU have to be the one to make the first move. You have to step up and be the leader that you can be. If the thought of this makes you feel faint then it’s only becasue it’s out side of your comfort zone. It’s not going to change until YOU change it, So barge on in and do things differently, practise and before long it will be second nature. All it takes is a decsion on your part to change.

In my opinion people will like you instantly if you can make them feel better or good about themselves. How can do you do this? One way is to pay them a compliment. You have to do it the right way though. Here’s how:

What I’m going to share with you I first heard in a presentation by Alan Pease and I think it’s just brilliant. This is actaully where the taller, thinner and younger comes in. Alan Pease says that they have discovered that people who receive compliments feel taller, thinner and younger and what that means is that they feel better or good about themselves which is exactly what you want.

I can’t guarnatee that the people you compliment will definitely feel tallewr, thinner or younger  but one thing I can tell you from my experience with using this method is that done correctly, people will accept and embrace what you say and it will definitely help them to like you and that’s a pretty good start.

1. You can compliment someone’s apperance, behaviour or a posessoion of theoirs. If you don’t know them at all I suggest you keep your compliments to possessions. Some people find more personal compliments very uncomfortable to receive and you want to make them feel as comfortable as oyu can but this is somehting you will need to play around with.
2. Always use a person’s name in the compliment if you know it.
2. Always tell people what you like followed by the reason why. For example: “Jack, that blue shirt really suits you becasue it compliments your eyes.”

4. At the end always finsh with an open ended question that will get them to talk and initiate he start of as discussion. So, “Jack, that blue shirt really suits you becasue it compliments your eyes.Tell me, how do you usually select your shirts?” An open question is one that requires a lengthy answer and that can’t be ansewred by yes or no.

Once the perosn starts to speak listen to them inytently and pick up on what they say to move you to the next part of the conversation. Some good follow on bridging words after thay have spoken are “Meaning?”

So why not decide to  the nect time you are at a gathering, netrowkrking meeting or just at a frinds. Parctasier with peope oyu know first. Folcus on quickoy fidngin htings oyu can compliment try this, choose a target and focus on something posoitive you can compliment, then walk up to them and say it rerally confudently anf frndyl. If you donl;t kno wten youv might ven start by saying, “Excuse me but I’ve been watchign for a lottler while and….”

Whatever you do don’t think that uy can start pirchuinbg your buisness right after you have complimented them. In fact you would ony say anyting abiuytoyur business hwn they ask you.

Happy complimenting!!