Don’t say Yes When You Mean No

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Do you know how to say “No” without feeling guilty? To have a truly successful network marketing Internet business you have to learn when to say No and make sure you do it.

According to Noah St John, author of  The Secret Code of Success: 7 Hidden Steps to More Wealth and Happiness, many of us have been led to believe that we must be ‘people pleasers’ at own expense.

Doing this means you do not value yourself sufficiently so you give others more control over your life than is healthy.

It also means you are likely to resent having said Yes when you really wanted to say No. Consequently this can lead to your feeling unhappy since you are no longer aligned with your inner power.

Those who are very successful understand the importance of sticking to their defined agendas when other people’s agendas diverge from their own.

They have learned how to disagree without being disagreeable.

It’s not about saying No but how you say it. When you learn how to do this more effectively you will be better able to conserve and manage your most important personal resources – time, energy and money.

Highly successful, happy people have given themselves permission to say No when they mean No. Learning how to do this starts with the process of becoming aware that you can always either say No or Yes to any request. To be in control, take your power back.

Noah St John writes in his book, that you have to Find Your Personal No, Your Interpersonal No, and Your Global No and once you can do this you will have mastered one of the most important steps he teaches.

Finding Your Personal No

This means saying No to yourself.   Unsuccessful, unhappy people have a hard time saying no to things they know aren’t good for them, or don’t produce the results they want.

A common example is not saying No to procrastination for instance.

In his book, Noah shows you how to identify the actions you’re doing that are taking you away from what you really want, and how to become accountable to others so you stop doing them.

Finding Your Personal No

This means saying no to others. Rich, happy people know how to say no when other people’s demands don’t fit into their own vision for success. In his book, Noah gives you some practical examples of how to ‘say No with a smile.’

Finding Your Global No

This means your integrity—the things you are not willing to do that would compromise your values.

For a more in depth look at this topic I recommend consulting Step 6 in The Secret Code of Success: 7 Hidden Steps to More Wealth and Happiness.

No doubt many of us may experience challenges when it comes to saying NO sometimes. What are your particular areas of concern and how to do you attempt to manage these? Please leave me your responses in the comments section.

Be Happy!

Post Image: Jason Antony