How to Help Your Network Marketing Associates to Success

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Have you been setting goals and ‘trying’ to believe in yourself without experiencing the success you wanted? Then this post may just shed some light on changing your situation.

In step 2 of his 7 step model, Noah St John who wrote The Secret Code of Success: 7 Hidden Steps to More Wealth and Happiness, shares some powerful insights about why we often fail to achieve our goals.

More importantly he provides us with an alternative approach.  In my opinion network marketing is already perfectly structured to embrace this approach but doesn’t seem to do so on any major scale.

In this post I want to summarize these insights and open the discussion about why network marketing is not working as it could.

Don’t Believe in Yourself? Here’s why…

Can you ever know the color of your own eyes without the help of others telling you what the color is or without a mirror to see them for yourself?  No, because you can never see your own eyes from within.

What if that mirror was to be distorted though or what if what people told you was untrue? Then you’d believe this because how would you know any differently?

The same is true when it comes to what you believe about yourself.

You have been told numerous lies by others, picked up countless untrue self beliefs and looked into so many distorted mirrors that you can no longer see who you are and what you’re capable of.

Noah St John calls this “head trash” – self limiting lies you believe about yourself.

Because of this “head trash”, you have no understanding of your infinite value so you don’t believe in yourself or know what you’re truly capable of.

How This Impacts on Your Goal Achievement Efforts…

Even if you’ve only been involved with network marketing for a short time you’ll have been told that to be successful you must set goals and believe in yourself.

The problem is that when you do this, you turn to yourself to believe in yourself, but in effect you’re turning to the least capable person to know what you’re truly capable of.

It’s no wonder then that you don’t believe in yourself and don’t achieve your goals. The solution is not to do any more goal setting workshops. You know all you need to know about setting goals.

The Solution is…

finding a way to believe in yourself. However if you’ve been looking to yourself to make this happen there’s every chance you’ve not been successful, yet.

Noah St John writes that what you really need is the support of people who believe in you more than you believe in yourself.

There is nothing wrong with being told to believe in yourself but there are two stages that must happen first BEFORE you can believe in yourself.

Most other tradtional success programs miss the first two stages.

Stage 1 – Someone believes in you.

Stage 2 – You believe in someone else.

Stage 3 – You believe in you

Loving Mirrors and Safe Havens

You need others to believe in you first. Someone who looks at you and sees your full capacity and potential for greatness. This could be a friend, teacher, coach or mentor.

Noah St John calls these people, our Loving Mirrors and Safe Havens.

A Loving Mirror is a person who gives you unconditional support. This is someone that sees you can do it, knows you can do it before you know you can and holds you to this.

A Safe Haven is a Loving Mirror in the work or business situation. This is someone who sees your capacity and potential, holds you to a higher standard and keeps you accountable to the demands of business.

In other words, a Safe Haven doesn’t let you get away with NOT living up to what you’re really capable of.

Safe Havens and Network Marketing

Network Marketing is structured in such a way that we all have an obvious Safe Haven – our sponsors.

And in turn we as sponsors are able to be Safe Havens to our associates.

A sponsor has everything to gain financially and otherwise from coaching an associate to success as does the associate on the receiving end. This is one of the core benefits of having a network marketing business.

While this is a perfect setup in theory, it’s obviously not working in practice or else we’d have a much higher success rate in our industry.

Why is this the case?

The idea of a sponsor being a coach and mentor is not a new one to network marketers. You don’t have to go very far to find just about everybody calling themselves a coach.

In my opinion few people really understand what it means to be a coach of the Safe Haven kind though.

Being a coach is not just about passing on information about ‘how to market’, it’s about holding a vision of our associate’s success until they are able to do this themselves.

It’s about actively helping our associates to believe in themselves.

I know many successful network marketers who have achieved success by using a success coach other than their sponsor.

While this is fantastic initiative, should we really have to spend additional resources on what our sponsors should be doing anyway?

I believe too many sponsors are doing little more than introducing new associates to an opportunity and showing them how to market, but what are they doing about helping their associates with the most challenging aspect of all – believing in themselves?

One often hears that you should not rely on your sponsor to be successful. I agree that you have to put in your own work to be successful but from a coaching to success point of view, I believe your sponsor must accept the responsibility especially since they will benefit from your success.

Shouldn’t we be looking for sponsors who can be the Safe Havens that we need and shouldn’t we be expecting them to take an active role in this process?  I do.

Naturally we should be doing the same for our associates.

Why are sponsors not the Safe Havens they should be?

Maybe they have been ignorant about taking on this responsibility or could it be that new people just haven’t learned the skills to be able to do this so early in the game?

One thing is for sure, unless we are role modelling this Safe Haven function to our own associates they will not be role modelling it to their associates which means we will not be maximizing our role in helping our immediate and extended downline to achieve the success we want.

Now it’s over to you, what do you think about this? Join in the discussion by leaving a comment.

Be Happy!

PS: If you want more details about Loving Mirrors and Safe Havens consult Noah St John‘s work directly. Also check out my previous posts in this series.

If you haven’t yet downloaded your free Top 30 Afformations for success in Network Marketing see my previous post, Afformations for Your Network Marketing Internet Business